JUS’ E-MAIL ME: ¿HOW DO I LOSE MY ‘GAY VIRGINITY’?

Growing up in a sexually repressed world, I was eager to lose my virginity. So few days ago, lying in bed, I turned to the man next to me I’d just had sex with and asked: ‘So does this mean I’ve lost my virginity?’ He laughed and replied ‘I’m afraid not.’ Leaving me asking, what…

MOVING THROUGH DARKNESS…

Often it takes something major to wake us up as we struggle to maintain an illusion of control. In life, most of us want things to go to the places we have envisioned ourselves going. We have plans and visions, some of them divinely inspired, that we want to see through to completion. We want…

SILVER LININGS…

Without clouds in one’s life where would be the opportunities to see and appreciate the clearing? To not feel in terms of sadness, grief, depression, etc. there would not be the deep feelings of love and compassion. Like the parts of the earth that get no rain, little can grow and blossom. Sometimes, feelings that…

WHY WE IN THE GAY COMMUNITY NEED TO RETHINK HIV PREVENTION

We’ve come so far in the terms of where we are in HIV prevention. Gone are the days of the tombstone adverts. Now we live in an age where the majority of gay and bisexual men living with HIV have the condition under control. So if this is the case, why are we still seeing…

(UN)SAFE SEX: ¿A RIGHT OR PRIVILEGE?

I think people are a bit immune to the burden of having safe sex, not liking condoms and getting horizontal with a sense of entitlement where people think: ‘it’s my right to have unsafe sex’. Why are so many content with living in a world of no consequences? Apparently as gay men, we’re even more…

A$$ TO MOUTH: HOT ¿OR? NOT

Ass-to-mouth, ATM or A2M, is that your thing? In porn we often see a guy suck a dick that had just been in his ass. It may be common in porn, but what about in real life? How many among you guys have already tried ATM? If you have not done it yet, have you…

JUS’ E-MAIL ME: MORE THAN BIG BLACK D!@K

On a few occasions, men who were perfect strangers have touched me inappropriately in gay bars and in gay nightclubs without my consent.  If you accidentally make eye contact with someone, they sometimes believe they now have the right to touch you how they please. This has always been something that not only confused me…