LIFE IS CONTRADICTORY…

Get use to it, and be aware as well as letting go of confusion and resistance to challenges. What seems nice, may have hidden aspects that aren’t so nice. Reality isn’t flat or black and white. Good sometimes contains bad and even that is open to differing perceptions. Awareness needs one to see all sides,…

CELEBRATING THE IN-BETWEEN TIMES…THE JOYS OF BEING IN THE COMMUNITY

Real life most often happens during the in-between times, when we are not celebrating a special occasion. While celebrations are intended to honor life’s more momentous occasions, much of real life tends to happen during the in-between times. While moving from one moment in time to the next is seldom considered a significant occurrence, it…

¡THE STIGMA OF HIV & AIDS CANNOT HIDE!

There are many reasons gay men are so strongly associated with stigma of HIV. Some have to do with tired stereotypes, making it so easy to hide one’s status. Despite the focus on stigmatizing the image of HIV, can the stigma of HIV be used to create a safe space to express our sexuality as…

¿’TOP’ PRIVILEGE? LET’S TALK…

The top and bottom dichotomy is something we gay men are intimately aware of. It’s something that’s spawned a lot of biases and preconceived notions, some of which most gay guys believe in without thinking twice about it. Do you guys believe that tops enjoy privileges that bottoms don’t? Do you think that tops expect…

¿DOES BEING GAY MAKE US MORE ‘MASCULINE?’

One trait commonly associated with masculinity is the behaviour of seeking other male attention for approval. Think team sports, it’s all about dude-on-dude approval. But gay guys often strive to achieve a similar end, also regularly seeking validation from other men. The tactics may differ, however. Does that make gay men, by definition, hyper-masculine? Perhaps a…

HOW TO KNOW IF YOUR RELATIONSHIP DOUBTS ARE DEAL BREAKERS OR TOTALLY NORMAL

You’ve been dating this guy for a while now, and things are starting to get serious. You’ve met their family, hung out with their friends, and their clothes frequently find their way into your hamper. If you haven’t already moved in together, you might be heavily considering it. But even though you’re definitely in love…

LISTENING TO THE COMMUNITY WITH A WHOLE HEART

When we begin to listen to the community with our hearts rather than our heads, our whole world changes and becomes softer. Most of us were born and raised in cultures that value the head over the heart and, as a result, we place our own hearts below our heads in a sort of inner…

¿ARE YOU THE MARRYING KIND?

 Are you single, married, or in a (monogamous or non-monogamous) relationship? Moreover, are you the marrying kind? And what do you think about monogamous and non-monogamous relationship in general? Do you also want to get married someday or are you not the marrying type?

¿WHY IS SO HARD TO TALK ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH OUR PARTNERS?

Why is it often easier to view the weaknesses in other people’s relationships than it is to cast a critical eye over one’s own? I have sometimes been guilty of being so head over heels in love – or infatuation – to overlook the fact the feelings are not being reciprocated. Maybe being blind to…

NELSON MANDELA DAY #Mandela100

Mandela Day calls on us all, every day, to make the world a better place. Each year on 18 July we look back on what has been done, and forward to what will be done. Making every day a Mandela Day celebrates Madiba’s life and legacy in a sustainable way that will bring about enduring…