THERE’S SOMETHING BETTER THAN FINDING A SOULMATE…

They Say That When We’re Choosing A Tennis Partner It Is Best To Find Someone That Plays Better Than Us So That It Will Help To Improve Our Game. Unfortunately, this kind of sucks for the better player if what they’re looking for is a challenge and the hope of improving their own game. Romantic love works…

CHANGING THE WAY WE RELATE: MAKING OVER OUR COMMUNITIES

It is dishonest to enter the community with the idea that you are going to change or fix things. A relationship, in the truest sense of the word, means relating to another. Usually when we say that we relate to someone, it is because we’ve found common ground. But part of relating is finding ways…

EMBRACING, NOT JUST ACCEPTING AGEING

As my 36th birthday approaches, I feel happier and healthier than ever. I’ve gone from accepting ageing to actually embracing, heck even looking forward to it! I mean, why should I succumb to the media-led, youth-obsessed culture we live in that seeks to only canonise the newest, latest and freshest? If I were to limit…

COMPASSION, OUR COMMUNITIES & THE PRESENCE OF DIFFICULTIES…

Compassion is the ability to see the deep connectedness between ourselves, others and the community. Moreover, true compassion recognizes that all the boundaries we perceive between ourselves and others are an illusion. When we first begin to practice compassion, this very deep level of understanding may elude us, but we can have faith that if…

7 SURPRISING THINGS HOOKUPS CAN CURE!

That gay hookup you’ve got planned may have hidden health benefits! Gay hookups are nothing new – particularly in an age of apps like Grindr and Scruff. But beyond the physical pleasure they bring, are there really any tangible health benefits? For example, might you experience something that goes beyond the mere release of immediate stress? It turns…

¿WHY ARE THEY NAKED AGAIN?

Do you ever tire of seeing naked men or men in various ‘thirst trap’ positions? Why or why not?    

CO-HABITUATING WITH OTHERS…SHARING OUR COMMUNITY

When we co-habituate with others, it is important to make the effort to share the space in a way that supports everyone. Our communities are our havens. These places where we come to rest, recharge, and dream in safety and comfort allow us to better face the challenges of the world outside. When sharing a…

¿WHO DO WE LOVE?

What’s the point of love? I’m not asking this to set you up as the troubled lead in a rom-com who, after a series of montages, will eventually learn to open his heart and love again. I’m seriously asking: Why do we love? 

OPEN RELATIONSHIPS & GAY MEN

What is it with gay men and open relationships? Are they evidence that our relationships are as varied and individual as we are or proof that gay men have commitment issues? Should we live by our own rules and choices or are we greedy, selfish and promiscuous? And now that same sex couples can get married,…

A NEW STUDY LINKS GAY MALE LONELINESS WITH HIGH-RISK SEX

Few would likely debate the findings of a new study from China and California looking closely at a link between loneliness, depression and high-risk sexual behavior. The findings show a strong link between men having sex with men facing depression and loneliness and risk-taking among those who are HIV negative. The study focused on 507 men…