¿SHOULD LIFE BE DIFFICULT?

Should life be this difficult? Yes, but not for the reasons so many of us are experiencing. Life shouldn’t be difficult because of communication issues, building or rebuilding trust, financial pressures or any of the other problems that top the lists of reasons life sucks so hard. Those struggles are symptoms of a deeper issue…

RuPAUL’S NEW BOOK ‘GURU’ IS HERE, A HOW-TO GUIDE FOR LIVING ONE’S TRUTH

Every week on RuPaul‘s and Michelle Visage’s podcast “What’s The Tee?” — between celebrity interviews and moments where two friends simply dish with each other — there’s some true knowledge and wisdom dropped from the hosts. I’ve even caught myself a number of times zipping over to the “Notes” app in my iPhone to jot down some…

WHEN THE COMMUNITY DOORS OPEN (WALKING THROUGH)

Our lives are the result of all the doors we have walked through, and our continued growth depends on our willingness to keep moving into new spaces. When the door of the community opens, walk through it. Trust that the door has opened for a reason and you have been guided to it. Sometimes we…

¡HAPPY 11TH ANNIVERSARY MY LOVE!

Our LOVE was never about time. It was never about being someone just because it was familiar and comfortable. I could go my entire life saying you’re my ideal life partner &  best friend, but our LOVE was never about familiarity, but about compatibility. ¡HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!  

¿WHAT DO YOU DO AFTER SEX?

After a sweaty romp in the sack, what do you do as soon as you’re done? Do you grab a smoke? Do you turn on Netflix or the TV and melt? Do you get dressed and go home? Do you spoon & cuddle?  Do you have deep meaningful conversation? Do you get something to eat? Do…

¿WHY IS MONOGAMY SEEN AS SOMETHING TO FEAR FOR SOME GAY MEN?

Maybe this sounds familiar: You meet a guy, it goes well, so you go out. Then you go on another date, and another, and all of a sudden, a few months have passed, and you’re with someone who makes you smile. But there’s that nagging feeling: Is this too easy, asking yourself if you’re settling?…

JUS’ E-MAIL ME: ¿CAN WE JUST BE FRIENDS?

I met a guy at my gym a while ago. We added each other on FB and we chatted and texted for few weeks. We even met several times casually and one time for sex. I suggested to him that we should date and start being lovers since we had this great connection. He was hesitant…

EMBRACING THE COMMUNITY (A SEPARATE REALITY)

Sometimes we purposefully, though unconsciously, cut ourselves off from the flow and the embrace of humanity so we can avoid dealing with painful issues. We all experience periods where we feel separated from the loving ebb and flow of the universe. These times of feeling disconnected from the source may occur for many reasons, but…

¿THE TERM “DADDY”: WHAT’S YOUR STATE OF MIND?

What defines an actual “daddy” in the gay community now?  Is it one’s biological age? The type of behavior one exhibits when out and about or in the bedroom? A look that makes one want to submit to him?