43496525_303313823595676_1453447182421065728_nAren’t we all damaged goods, trying to find our way around the sexual maze? Don’t we all enjoy anal sex, so why do we make those of that  “bottom” feel like failures as men and discarded outside the bedroom?

 In a community where we add new letters to LGBTQI to make it more encompassing and the with the ascent of online dating, how can, we stop seeing each other as categories that’s perfect for our dicks and bottoms who should be ashamed of what he allows happen to him sexually?

Our insistence on defining ourselves and others as “tops” and “bottoms” has spawned this “top privilege,” and despite the symbiosis between tops and bottoms, there’s too much resentment and outright animosity. Are we we actually having hate sex? Where’s the respect for anyone who can take it like a man? YES, LIKE A MAN! But the more I think about it, how can there actually be“top” vs “bottom,” if the community is open to everyone and we should respect what each other brings. Oh I get it, only persons that are on the outside of our collective bedrooms MUST respect us, but we have free reign to fuck over men who chooses to “bottom.


2 Comments Add yours

  1. galby68 says:

    Hmm. You bring up an interesting point. One I was actually not aware of!
    You see, when I was a boy, there was a good deal of shame in being perceived as a bottom. Nowadays – and maybe it’s just something unique to the Pacific Northwest – there seems to be a great deal of Bottom Pride. Men who identify sexually as a bottom are very open about their preference and have no problem calling out the absence of tops in town.
    Of course, they’re still as picky as hell, so the situation can’t be as dire as they make it out to be. 😂
    But, if that’s not the case everywhere…that makes me sad. With all of the societal issues we have working against us, we certainly shouldn’t be tearing ourselves apart from within. I’d say those that do practice those destructive shame games probably have more than a little work to do on themselves.

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  2. renudepride says:

    I agree totally with galby above. I do strongly feel that in open progressive society’s, bottom – shaming is becoming less of an issue as versatility gains acceptance and celebration. Diversification matters more than a traditional role in a more fluid culture! Naked hugs!


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