So let’s say you found yourself a good one, he is giving, thoughtful, committed, and consistent and you’re happy together. It’s still going to take some work, right? Like a normal, sane amount of work to keep the relationship strong?

I used to roll my eyes at the people who claimed they rarely argue and called each other “babe.” I just assumed that it really wasn’t possible for two human beings to like each other and get along most of the time, and I thought these unicorns-and-rainbows couples must be insufferable or they were just plain liars. More likely the latter, right?

So is it simply having each other’s backs?

Not taking the relationship for granted or neglect it?

Not seeing it as work but as something you want to do?