You don’t have to be in a relationship.
I am mean it. I know they force it down your throat until you choke on it. Men aren’t good looking unless they’re wanted. We aren’t love-able until we’re dating someone.
But a relationship won’t always make you happy, and as wonderful as romance is, it isn’t the only love that exists. I have seen friendships that are deeper and more pure than couples who swear it’s forever and yet the friendship is the one people ignore.
I have heard so often “nobody loves me” out the mouths of men who single. And it kills me because if you ask them: where are your parents, your teachers, your classmates, your pets – they say, okay, but it doesn’t count. Of course it counts, love doesn’t diminish just because someone doesn’t want to have sex with you. In fact, doesn’t it sort of make that love more real that they want nothing, not even a date out of you?
It is pretty to be in love. It’s magical, I’m sure. But it’s also wonderful to star gaze with six other friends. It’s also wonderful to visit the world with nothing but a bunch of buddies who are really excited about learning.
The issue is: we’ve made everything about ‘the one’. But maybe “the one” is just you, loving yourself, having fun and being happy. Maybe instead of looking for our halves, we should be piecing ourselves together.
Maybe you weren’t born unfinished. Maybe you are the one who makes yourself better.