It is impossible to have a modern conversation about HIV and HIV stigma without having the term “undetectable” used, misused and abused. Those involved in HIV advocacy certainly have strong opinions on how the term that refers to an HIV positive person’s undetectable viral load should be used (and who is using it incorrectly). Some herald the term as a badge of honor worn by those who are compliant with their treatment and open about their HIV status, while others would scold the same group of people for using the term as an excuse to engage in unsafe sexual behavior. Either way, oversimplified accolades and mud-slinging morality judgments have no place in a conversation about HIV stigma, prevention and the term that is a result of compliance with medication. With many gay men still unclear about what being “undetectable” truly constitutes, how do we get to a place where we can discuss what it means and doesn’t mean without all of us looking dirty in the end?