There’s an old saying that each person falls in love three times throughout their lifetime, and although this might seem like an old wife’s tale (or an old husband’s tale!), when you scrutinize the details of the ancient notion it really doesn’t seem so impossible. Please read the specifics below and decide for yourself.
#1: Your first love.
It makes sense that this first love usually forms at a young age (during high school for most people). Just like youth, this love can often be described as being dreamy, idealistic, passionate, and even consuming.
Although it’s not comfortable to admit (or think about), this love frequently has a lot to do with living up to society’s standards and ideals as well. However, the usual feelings of having met your true one are real nonetheless, as are the indescribably negative feelings that people experience when this first love eventually ends for any one (or more) of a multitude of different reasons. Nevertheless, this love prepares human beings for future love, so this is definitely one case where another old saying is true: “It’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.”
#2: Your second love.
The next love in your life is usually a harder kind of love. In this case, it often seems as though you are learning more about yourself as a person than you are about the other person’s character. It normally begins to come clear what you need from a partner in order to truly feel loved, and what you need to do for a partner in order to make them feel genuinely loved. However, it also might seem like there is more deceit and distrust this time. While in this form of love, most people grow and evolve whether they want to or not, and whether the changes are positive or not. But, again, this love is necessary to prepare you for the next one (so please don’t resent it!).
#3: Your final love.
Ironically, most people don’t see this last love either coming or forming. However, this is good because it makes people realize that they don’t quite have love figured out yet—not even close. Someone can seem entirely wrong or impossible for you, and yet at the right time and under the right circumstances, neither of you can deny that you are deeply and passionately in love with each other, and that it feels as though you will be for the rest of your lives and beyond. What’s more, neither person really has any concrete expectations for the other person—or themselves—so spontaneity is normal and each new communication is both intriguing and consuming.