Consensual sex between gay men happens all the time, so why are there so many lingering questions in the air when it comes time to hook up? How can we not respond to the awkward silence in some offhanded way, though it is hard to be blithe and whimsical when we’re attempting to vulnerable and let our guards down for sex?
Though the hunger for touch does not always involve sex, how can we not be restricted in our sexual experimentation with the threat that it may obscure finding love? Moreover how do we know if we’re accessing sex more easily, or delving further into the sleazier side of sex that many of us subconsciously crave? Are we then doomed to settle for less?
Sexual experimentation is healthy, but is keeping it just to an experiment, the key for us? It’s always fun and sexy to live out your fantasies, but at some point we have to come back to the real world. At least, if our goal is for a relationship where emotional and psychological connections are just as important as sexual, right?