I never really understood the term “the birds and the bees.” Apparently, it’s some important conversation mommy and daddy are supposed to have with you when they sit you down and explain to you the repercussions of having sex. Well, I’ve been having sex for quite some time now, and by the grace of God and benefit to the rest of society, I somehow have not been able to reproduce.
We were taught what sex should be according to what mainstream society says. In porn, we continue to be taught what sex should physically look like when it comes to the submissive and dominant characters that the actors play. Could it be that when we are looking for our partners in a homosexual relationship, this formula may not apply? Furthermore, how does it play a role when it comes to our preferred sexual position and reflection on the way we operate in everyday life?
Too many of us are not aware of how far-fetched our understanding of how the male on male sex act comes together until our twenties. Even with dating, we don’t experience the sexual labels of “top” and “bottom” that came with the “do’s and don’ts” in the bedroom. For most of us, two men and their two penises got the best of both worlds. But just like a child outgrowing visits from Santa Claus, what happens when reality strikes and the mere act of sexual intercourse between two men is far more complex than what are prepared for?
Sexual roles apparently trickled into how men operated and treated each other in everyday life. It was assumed that from what we wear, how we conduct ourselves, the scale of flamboyant behavior, and even height seemed to oddly align with whether we identified as a top or a bottom. But that’s not the case at all. The spectrum of feminine and masculine behaviors and appearance really has nothing to do with what one may enjoy during midnight playtime. Tops come in all shapes and sizes (no pun intended) and the same for bottoms. So why did we tend to paint a heterosexual narrative on a homosexual situation?