I never planned to date a guy in an open relationship. It wasn’t that I was so gung-ho on monogamy, I just figured it wasn’t for me. I’m too jealous, can be needy and didn’t like the idea of being shared. Besides, everyone I knew growing up was monogamous. My parents. My grandparents. Their friends and so on.
Now, however, I find myself dating men in open and/or polyamorous relationships. So I was banging man after man. I even started dating some guys both of whom wanted to be monogamous. When I rejected them it brought them to tears.
I realized then that my sex/dating rampage was actually hurting people, so I needed to cool it and not date at all. Just keep having sex and not getting attached. The thing is the men that I hurt still bothers me and I can’t seem to shake them.
Why is it so hard to have open relationships with other men?
Yes I HAVE ON BOTH ENDS OF THE SPECTRUM. I AM A 1ON 1 TYPE OF GUY AND DON’T BELIEVE IN SHARING, HOWEVER I DO BELIEVE THAT MEN JUST WANT IT ALL AND THAT’S WHY SO MANY FAILED RELATIONSHIPS ENDS UP BEING ON THE OPEN MARKET WITHIN A RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE THEY REFUSE TO SHARE THEIR SPOUSE.( IF THAT MAKES SENSE)
IT’S MIND BOGGLING TO ME WHEN I HEAR COUPLES SAY OF WHAT THEY WILL ALLOW WITHIN THE BOUNDARIES OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP.
I CAN’T SHARE
I’M VERY TERRITORIAL
AND I LOVE TO HARD TO GIVE MYSELF AWAY TO ANYONE WHO I’M NOT ATTRACTED TO OR INVOLVED WITH.
IF YOU HAVE A PARTNER LOVE THEM UNCONDITIONALLY. DON’T STEP OUTSIDE OF WHAT YOU 2 BUILT TOGETHER; AND IF YOU FEEL THE NEED TO DO SO THEN BREAK UP!!
LOVE IS AS LOVE DOES AND LOVE IS NOT SUPPOSED TO HURT
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It’s impossible to be monotonous and be realistic with it in today’s 🌎 as I see it . If you think so then you are foolish Men cheat that’s just it. So just be real about it. Guys will at some point want to venture out to have sex with someone else .I would never put myself in relationship where I couldn’t see other people
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