When you first met the man who is now your partner, neither of you expected anything beyond friendship and fun, despite your obvious attraction to each other. But you quickly developed a deep connection, and fell hard and fast for each other… which meant letting go of all of your sexual partners.
Even though it never felt natural to you, you defaulted to monogamy because you thought that building a life with someone required it. Besides, you have a great sex life: you watched porn and openly discussed your fantasies, and your sexual history was never a taboo subject.
Early on, he’d bring up the possibility of non-monogamy, but you quickly squashed the idea. Being loved by someone while enjoying other partners seemed unrealistic. After all, every other boyfriend you had balked at the mere implication that you might have great sex with other partners.
But after a few years as a monogamous couple, the subject of opening the relationship to others, but you find that it takes your relationship to the next level. You both learned to quiet the tiny pangs of jealousy that sometimes appear in the heat of the moment. To your delight, these bits of jealousy ended up being obliterated by overwhelming arousal. Since you’ve always delighted in one another’s pleasure, you find out that it doesn’t matter that pleasure was coming from another person. And watching one another yields a consuming joy and strong desire for each other.
Do you think what I shared here is fantasy or something that demonstrates how open relationships works for gay couples?