Get use to it, and be aware as well as letting go of confusion and resistance to challenges. What seems nice, may have hidden aspects that aren’t so nice. Reality isn’t flat or black and white. Good sometimes contains bad and even that is open to differing perceptions. Awareness needs one to see all sides, in and through to accept that life and love have many dimensions. Reality is not just intellectual or mental but a combination of the emotional, intuitive, and spiritual.
The problem is we become ‘stuck’ or irresolute with limited views often because of fear of the truth. The ‘petrification’ of viewpoints is many fold worse today in life because of technology and information quickly changing with better answers and yet ones that are even more dangerous than in past times. For example, in the past people could hide the ‘resume’ of their previous life from anyone. Today, technology is so sophisticated in some cities that through advance instrumentation, any one can be found at their location within minutes, and with a biography of their past of certain information good or bad. That ability could be used for good or for evil.
All of life is contradictory, surreptitious, and a mixture of infinite possibilities. You do something with one hand then mysteriously undo it with the other hand. Seemingly schizophrenic. You love a person on the one hand, then on the other hand hate them or long term have nothing to do with them. Very bizarre. People who are deep meditators and/or secure in their self inner love are rarely duplicitous or contradictory in their ways. They are always like they were in their deepest love, like a mother.
Fear divides you. One step forward then one step into the graveyard of the past. There is no hope for those that stay attached to who they think they are with dangling bad memories. No one can move with one step, one leg and one foot. One lives best with wings to fly high where the air is rarified and free of stepping forward and stepping back. Love flourishes in responsible freedom or to always ‘respond with love’. Keep your head above the water and feet unstuck in the past. Give all of you from your very being with eyes wide open, and fears only from the practical. Success is a perception fueled by society, and your choice to forget the inner you for the outer appointments. Say to yourself ‘I love you’ and follow a path that supports the marriage of the heart and mind. Contradictions always exist, but in a celebration of love everything equates to love and joy. Convert all contradictions to their highest possibilities of understanding.