158053459_228194355577408_1570565309313755512_nTerms in the gay community can have a way of flipping on themselves depending on a ton of factors.  Gone are the days where the labels equate exactly to one of two things: age and look.  Now, terms are used much more freely and have more room to breathe.

Apps are a big way to view just how different terms like these have become. Apps like Scruff, Grindr and Growlr (or as I refer to them as, the “Goldilocks” of gay apps), have options where you can identify as anything from a cisgender man all the way to a fisting bottom and everything in between.  “Daddy” is a label/option used on all of them, yet many profiles that have this option clicked off show pics of men that don’t give off that type of look.  It may be a stereotypical man to think of, but when you peruse gay porn going all the way back to the 70’s, you will find that the ones labeled “daddy” generally have that type of look.  So what has shifted here?

I asked friends on social media who don’t necessarily “fit” the traditional daddy type why they consider themselves as so.  The responses were quite diverse, interesting, and will make you think differently about this term (or any, quite frankly) moving forward.

Many consider themselves to be a daddy because they equate daddy with the word “top”.  As a total top, there is a definite power feeling they get when in bed with another man.  

Others have taken on the daddy role primarily because of how big they are in the “package” department.  It’s amazing the kind of power you can wield when you have a larger than normal d**k, and that sort of thing can bring on the daddy mentality in ways.

The variance of the application of the ‘daddy’ label application is very visible everywhere you look.  Maybe this is a good thing?  Blurring the lines of labels until the are no more?  But what if some of us gravitate toward that label since that is what we like?  

What do you think defines a true daddy in today’s gay society?

5 Comments Add yours

  1. galby68 says:

    I like “Goldilocks”…personally I refer to apps as Asocial Media.
    As for “daddy”? Someone said that to me while I was inside him once and it was literally the moment we were over. I never saw him again after that. I was all, “Who the eff raised you?!?”


    1. Was it turn off/on fir you❓


      1. galby68 says:

        It was a turn off. I prefer equity in bed, not power dynamics. It’s hard for me to respect someone when they infantilize themselves.

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  2. Bernard says:

    Alpha male, daddy -him, not being mommie, I. e. Daddy, me myself don’t even use the label gay, so if I have to label daddy the afore mention is what I think of Daddy!


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