I’ve been dating a guy for a few months now and on Valentine’s Day, he’s hinted at us making a video. And not the G-rated either. Truthfully, I have mixed feelings about it. I mean I trust him but can you really ever trust anyone? Now he’s upset with me for not doing and said that I don’t trust him.

Am I a bad boyfriend for not wanting to do this?

Have you ever had to deal with this?

What are your thoughts?

What advice would you give this person?

2 Comments Add yours

  1. renudepride says:

    Sometimes, a very serious discussion on what really matters makes all the difference in the world. 🙂 Naked hugs!


  2. nubianikigai says:

    I think it’s great that your boyfriend wants to spice things up between the sheets and that before installing his camera has asked your consent. It’s rather intersting that only after a few months he wants to film your sexual acts.

    I am also of the opinion that it maybe a bit premature just after a few months. Its good to want to experiment, but not at any cost and not at the cost of one’s partner. Indeed there must be an established level of trust and comfort. No-oone should feel coerced into doing anything, mundane or tame as it may be, even if its only holding hands in public. Gone are the days when we force our sexual fantasies upon the next person. Gone are the days when we make people feel guilty for not doing what we want. There’s a name for that. It’s called selfishness.

    If your boyfriend is really into you he should respect your reservations, listen to the reasons why you heistate and help you walk through the process in a loving and gentle manner.

    In 2021 no-one obliges you to take it up the bum in order to affirm your gayness. We need to know by now that our sexualtiy can be expressed in a wide mulititude of ways. No sex is just as amazing as a filmed DP. I know thats something that gay men might not understand.


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