Loving oneself does not always come naturally.
In fact, we are more prone to pick out the problems than to think positively.
When hardship happens, we tend to be harder on ourselves. Yet, we are kinder to others when they are going through something. Why not be kinder to ourselves? Why not use self-love as a tool to navigate adversity?
Then, we can truly find our purpose. You just have to let go and let love in.
Rather than fight yourself, find yourself.
It’s not easy. If you have been neglected emotionally or have fallen apart due to life’s obstacles, it can be hard to learn to love yourself. In these moments is when it is most crucial we love ourselves.
It starts by looking within. If you’ve had trouble loving yourself for a long time, can you remember when it first started? What triggers you to look yourself in the mirror and not like what you see? It all starts with acceptance.
When you accept yourself, you no longer rely on others to accept you. You instead feel good because you are good. Not because you’re waiting on someone to tell you that you’re good.
You only have one life, so you need to live it.
Self-love helps us to prosper, but it doesn’t solve every mistake. You will still find fault in yourself. You will still experience failure. But what you don’t have to do is beat yourself up over it.
You win by leading a life with dignity and love. It’s about your values. That’s what creates your vision for who you are. Once you have a set of priorities, you can start to seek purpose. If you are lost, know that the detour may prove to have many insights that you can use for the road ahead. The destination is made from your gumption and what you can give.
Look to yourself for the approval that you crave. Instead of waiting to hear someone else say your worth, tell the world, “I am worthy.” If someone doubts that worth, tell the world, “Watch me.” Use it all as fuel to follow your dreams.
You don’t have to have all the answers to start loving yourself. You just need to love yourself for who you are, flaws and all, and recognize the small wins. When you are experiencing adversity, this becomes everything. Yet many of us run from ruin. You must rise from it.
Failure will happen. You will make mistakes. You will lose your footing. You will follow the wrong path here and there. You will become undone at times by struggle and strife. You will lose your wit. You will doubt your ambitions. You will question your relationships.