Now that many of us are fully vaccinated, looks like meat is back on the menu, boys! Hookups have returned (although I know many you cheeky fuckers never stopped), and they’re back with a vengeance. It seems like because so many of us were deprived from our usual routine of–let’s say–getting closer than six feet to other men–that now we’re making up for lost time. Dudes be going wild out there. Boys in my city are fucking like animals as we emerge from our long lockdown hibernation. And hey, I’m all here for it! Let’s go crazy, but maybe we can slow it down just a little bit, fellas? Let’s fuck like bunnies, but then afterwards… can we just cuddle?
Cuddling is one of the most underrated parts of the hookup experience. And any hookup worth its cum goes through all the proper “ing”s. There at least should be some semblance of wining, dining, boning, cuddling. Abbreviated versions of these steps are ok, but it’s important to go through the narrative process. Otherwise you end up with a dick in your moth before you’ve even learned his name… which, is hot, but not always ideal.
If you just cum with no emotional attachment, you may be flooded with dopamine, and that feels great. But oxytocin, otherwise known as the “love chemical” gets released way more in those post-coital moments of intimacy. Oxytocin doesn’t feel orgasmic, but you can bask in its ambient warmth for hours in bed with your lover. Cuddling after sex is enjoyable in a different way, but ultimately almost just as enjoyable as sex itself.
Hell, maybe even cuddle before sex? Let’s just lay there and enjoy each others company and each other’s warm bodies pressed together until we both get so aroused that we can’t take it anymore… Cuddle, fuck cuddle. Repeat as needed.
But maybe you’re the type who likes to cuddle, and then immediately run out the door. For some guys, their post-nut state involves a fight-or-flight type response. Cuddling guys like that can be hard, but it certainly won’t stop me from trying!