¿WHY DO OPEN RELATIONSHIPS LEAVE SUCH A BAD TASTE IN MOUTHS OF GAY MEN?

Can you love someone but fuck another guy? The answers to  such a question would be mixed, with some calling gay men in open relationships greedy and selfish while others will say it’s up to people in relationships to define what their relationships are. Whether you think being in open to open relationships comes with…

GAY MEN & THE ‘HOE’ MANAGEMENT STRUGGLE

  We’ve all heard the phrase, “With great beauty comes great responsibility” and if you can’t handle that, then you just end up a hoe. We all know someone who’s totally stunning, but has a hoop like a calamari ring. Yes, the key adjective… is ‘battered’. As gay men, we understand the need for validation,…

NEW RELATIONSHIPS & CHRISTMAS GIFTS…

Christmas is about spending time with love ones and buying gifts, but what about that guy you just started dating? How long should you be dating someone before you buy him a gift for Christmas? Is this something reserved for only serious relationships, or would you do it because it is Christmas?

GAY MEN, GRINDR & HIV…

“You’re vile.” “What the f*ck’s wrong with you? Why are you on here with your disease?” “You should be ashamed, you’re a walking disease.” These are just a few of the things HIV-positive gay men have reported hearing from other gay men on Grindr. Do you think HIV-positive men should be Grindr looking for connections?…

FIGHTING AGAINST OURSELVES…

Continually fighting against who you are may bring about a louder knock at your door that you won’t welcome. As SGL beings we often have the tendency to fight against being ourselves. Many of our stories start with us ignoring the call of his or her existence. There are many possible reasons for this resistance,…

THE GAY TEST…

  Have you noticed that when you meet another gay man via social media how he almost always come at you as if you should want to get with him even though he doesn’t know you @ all? Why do gay men do this? Why do we almost always come from a place of sex…

BEING INSTAGAY HOT TAKES A LOT OF EFFORT…

  Being Instagay hot takes a lot of effort. And time. And preparation. And research. And commitment. Most of us will never be Instagay hot. That isn’t a pity statement, or even a depressing one. It’s just reality. And it’s a reality that many of us should wholeheartedly embrace. Nothing against the Instagay hotness I…

POWER BOTTOMS WE APPRECIATE YOU!

HAPPY POWER 🍑 BOTTOMS 🍆 APPRECIATION 😋 DAY❗️ “A day to celebrate bottoms? Why?” Why not? As sodomites we’re hoping to reach the hearts, and perhaps other parts, of the community. It’s a time to celebrate our friends, our lovers, our mentors, and ourselves for the giving and receiving we do all year.

CASE OF THE EX: HOW BREAK-UPS REALLY AFFECT US

Break-ups come in all shapes, sizes and levels of extremity, from ‘we just drifted apart’ to ‘that cheating bastard!’ The post-break-up period can be equally polarized. When it comes to relationships and break-ups, some gay and bi men can feel low and depressed; while others bounce back and immediately hit the gay scene with a…