FIGHTING AGAINST OURSELVES…

Continually fighting against who you are may bring about a louder knock at your door that you won’t welcome. As SGL beings we often have the tendency to fight against being ourselves. Many of our stories start with us ignoring the call of his or her existence. There are many possible reasons for this resistance,…

THE GAY TEST…

  Have you noticed that when you meet another gay man via social media how he almost always come at you as if you should want to get with him even though he doesn’t know you @ all? Why do gay men do this? Why do we almost always come from a place of sex…

BEING INSTAGAY HOT TAKES A LOT OF EFFORT…

  Being Instagay hot takes a lot of effort. And time. And preparation. And research. And commitment. Most of us will never be Instagay hot. That isn’t a pity statement, or even a depressing one. It’s just reality. And it’s a reality that many of us should wholeheartedly embrace. Nothing against the Instagay hotness I…

POWER BOTTOMS WE APPRECIATE YOU!

HAPPY POWER 🍑 BOTTOMS 🍆 APPRECIATION 😋 DAY❗️ “A day to celebrate bottoms? Why?” Why not? As sodomites we’re hoping to reach the hearts, and perhaps other parts, of the community. It’s a time to celebrate our friends, our lovers, our mentors, and ourselves for the giving and receiving we do all year.

CASE OF THE EX: HOW BREAK-UPS REALLY AFFECT US

Break-ups come in all shapes, sizes and levels of extremity, from ‘we just drifted apart’ to ‘that cheating bastard!’ The post-break-up period can be equally polarized. When it comes to relationships and break-ups, some gay and bi men can feel low and depressed; while others bounce back and immediately hit the gay scene with a…

GAY MEN, MONOGAMY & THE LURE OF OPEN RELATIONSHIPS…

For centuries, heterosexual people have defined what relationships are. It started out as a type of possession: “I own you.” Hardly anchored in love, was it? And yet, this is the model that most of the human race has embraced for hundreds of years. Only in the last century or so has marriage begun to…

GAY MEN & THE SHINY PENNY SYNDROME

Shiny Penny Syndrome occurs when you’re dating a man that can’t keep his eyes off someone else. Like, how dare you have kissable lips and abs that it is distracting my boyfriend? The problem in the gay community is that there’s always someone hotter, younger and fitter. Modern dating only adheres to that notion. We…

GAY & POLYAMOROUS…

Have you ever wondered how we became the society we are today? We grew up believing in the principles of family, passed on through generations: two people get together as a couple, later getting married and reproducing – an heterosexual normative that has always been backed by society’s constitutional laws. Gay people have forever been…

LOVE IN THE WORLD OF LIKES

The internet and social media–as I’m sure you are well aware–have radically changed the way we meet our romantic partners. But also to a more subtle degree, these things have affected what it even means to be in a relationship. Undeniably, sex and hookups are easier than ever now. But in this new infrastructure predicated…