👍🏽 EMBRACING, NOT JUST ACCEPTING AGEING 😊

As another birthday approaches, I feel happier and healthier than ever. I’ve gone from accepting ageing to actually embracing, heck even looking forward to it! I mean, why should I succumb to the media-led, youth-obsessed culture we live in that seeks to only canonise the newest, latest and freshest? If I were to limit myself…

😊 LIFE IS CONTRADICTORY…🥴

Get use to it, and be aware as well as letting go of confusion and resistance to challenges. What seems nice, may have hidden aspects that aren’t so nice. Reality isn’t flat or black and white. Good sometimes contains bad and even that is open to differing perceptions. Awareness needs one to see all sides,…

5 ⚠️ BENEFITS 🛑 OF 💦 NO 🤨NUT 🍆 NOVEMBER

Did you know this was a thing? Not choking your chicken for 30 days as a challenge to your sheer will? Believe it or not, men all over the world are giving up spewing their sweet and salty man juice. Here are the rules: No masturbating for 30 days…or you’re out.No sex for 30 days…or…

💪🏽 GAY MEN & BODY IMAGES…🪞

Whether it’s building muscle – or losing fat – to pursue what we consider to be our ideal body, many gay men experience body image issues. Our relationship to our own bodies is a topic that fascinates me. As gay men, issues of body image, self-esteem and self-worth are undeniably closely linked to our sexuality….

👥 💘HOW TO ACTUALLY FIND A BOYFRIEND ONCE QUAR IS LIFTED 😍👬🏽

If you’re like millions of other single guys trapped in their tiny studio apartment jerking off to the same six videos over and over again, then right about now you’re probably fantasizing about having a steady, loving boyfriend in your life. You’ve probably imagined a post-vaccine world, where everyone can be free to flirt and…

SEXUAL OBJECTIFICATION OF BLACK MEN, FROM MAPPLETHORPE TO CALVIN KLEIN

In our current moment there has been considerable debate around what is frequently referred to as “sexual racism,” a term that reacts to the romantic and erotic rejection of men of color by white gay men. These discussions describe, often in detail, the various forms of emotional injury in the digital realm of dating and…

RUPAUL’S DRAG RACE ALL STARS: SEASON 5, EPISODE 8 – “CLAP BACK”

Having grown accustomed to season-ending lip sync smackdowns (and even a virtual finale that exceeded most expectations), the All Stars finales are starting to feel a little “small” by comparison. A choreographed group number with an original solo already feels like a retread of earlier challenges, even if the difficulty has been ratcheted up. When Shea originally…

¿DO YOU LOVE YOUR D!@K?

Pretty much the only guys that have porn star sized penises are well, porn stars. The rest of us need to learn to love the penis we have. Penis size obsession is everywhere, and its amplified within the gay community. For something that we have relatively no control over (extreme surgical procedures aside), it takes…

RUPAUL’S DRAG RACE ALL STARS: SEASON 5, EPISODE 7 – “STAND-UP SMACKDOWN”

Yikes. Watching comedy challenges on Drag Race always feels like toeing the line between cackling and cringing while wearing six-inch stiletto heels. This week’s stand-up smackdown challenge led to a bit too much of the latter. Something of a hybrid between the standard roast and season 12’s more personal, storytelling-style one-queen shows. Most of the gals leaned…