NATIONAL HIV TESTING DAY (NHTD) 2K19

Today marks National HIV Testing Day & this year’s theme, “Doing It My Way,” is the same as last year’s and highlights the many ways people can make HIV testing a part of their lives. In today’s world, HIV is no longer a death sentence. Thanks to antiretroviral medications, living with the virus is like…

¿CAN THE HIV CONVERSATION BE THE DEFINING PRIDE EXPERIENCE FOR US ALL?

Many of us are into some pretty kinky stuff. At least once a day, the thought passes through our minds on how lucky we are to be alive now, in a time when we can enjoy the things we enjoy without debilitating, immobilizing fear. Our forebears fought for this. Countless lobbyists, antagonists, and grassroots activists…

10 THINGS YOU SHOULDN’T SAY TO AN HIV-POSITIVE PERSON ON GRINDR

The gay hook-up app, Grindr, is anonymous — which is of course what makes it wonderful — and what opens the door for trolls spewing hateful comments with virtually no consequences. Even worse, thanks to a report from BuzzFeed News, it was revealed that the company has been sharing its users’ data (including their HIV status…

WHY BLACK GAY MEN NEED PrEP

Black gay and bisexual men are far less likely than their white counterparts to take PrEP. Since the introduction of PrEP, HIV incidence in white gay and bisexual men has fallen greatly, but the fall in black men hasn’t been as big. There are many reasons that contribute to this, which include structural racism, homophobia,…

¿CAN WE STOP SHAMING MEN THAT LIKE TO BAREBACK?

Over the years condom use has changed drastically. Many gay men see it a pain in the ass. Now I know this is not the case for all gay men, but for far too many, condoms are more than just a minor nuisance. That said, when it comes to our sexual appetite, many of us…

HIV: ¿HOW DO WE MOVE OUR HEARTS & MINDS?

HIV ad campaigns, whether encouraging people to get tested, treated, or learn about PrEP presumably want to encourage people to take action, but they rarely capture what actually motivates gay men.   As our community brainstorms how future efforts could better educate gay men, we must draw from past failures and successes in social marketing, and…

LOVE N’ DATING IN TIMES OF HIV (STILL)

Many of HIV’s limitations are limitations that we impose on ourselves. The pool of available dating material, for instance, doesn’t have to be limited to only other HIV-positive partners. If you’re HIV-positive, sure, some  people will be frightened away by HIV, but there are HIV negative people out there willing to overlook an HIV status….

JUS’ E-MAIL ME: PrEP-ARATION FOR SEX…

My boyfriend wants to fuck me raw.  Though he hasn’t said it yet, eventually he will. Right now, however, he is just a tapestry of hints and subtleties. He asks me if he can just put the head in. He says he just wants to loosen me before slipping on the condom. I flinch as…