REVEALING YOUR TRUE SELF (ESSENTIAL AUTHENTICITY)

Our true selves exist whether we acknowledge them or not, often buried under learned behavior. Identity is an elusive concept. We feel we must define ourselves using a relatively small selection of roles and conscious character traits, even if none accurately represents our notion of “self.” The confusion surrounding our true natures is further compounded…

BREAKING COMMUNITY CYCLES (THE START OF CHANGE)

Breaking your community patterns may be the most important work you do and the most challenging. It is easy to believe that in living our various queer communities and embarking upon the journey of finding who are will effectively removed us from harmful and self-perpetuating patterns. In looking closely at ourselves, however, we may discover…

LIFE IN THE COMMUNITY CAN BE SCARY (TAKE THE PLUNGE ANYWAY)

No matter how brave, strong, or level-headed we are, sometimes we all get scared. Life in the community can take us on a roller coaster ride full of highs and lows and twists and turns. Even for those of us who enjoy unexpected thrills, it’s frightening to suddenly find ourselves heading for a deep plunge….

EVALUATING OUR RELATIONSHIPS (THE GAY FRIENDS WE WANT TO BE)

Be the friend to others, that you wish them to be to you. There comes a time in all our lives when we may need to evaluate our relationships, making sure that they are having a positive effect on us, rather than dragging us down. Without realizing it, we may be spending precious time and…

GRIEF IS IMPORTANT (EMBRACING THE COMMUNITY’S GRIEF)

Grieving doesn’t have to be a process that keeps us rooted in our thoughts of fear and sadness. Change is something that happens each and every moment in our lives. Since nothing is constant, it may sometimes seem as if we are losing something whenever things do change. Understanding that this is part of our…

KEEPING THE COMMUNITY’S SUN

Keep the sun inside of you, when you are missing it on the outside, is a way to say hello to the sun and let it warm your soul. Anyone who has endured a long, dark winter can attest to the power the sun has to both invigorate and relax body, mind, and soul. It can be…

WHEN THE COMMUNITY DOORS OPEN (WALKING THROUGH)

Our lives are the result of all the doors we have walked through, and our continued growth depends on our willingness to keep moving into new spaces. When the door of the community opens, walk through it. Trust that the door has opened for a reason and you have been guided to it. Sometimes we…

DEEPER MEANING…LETTING GO OF UNDERSTANDING IN THE COMMUNITY

It is not always for us to know, the deeper meaning of everything that occurs in our life. All of us who seek to be connected and aware regard our experiences as teachers, and we try to discern what lessons we are learning from the things that happen in our lives. Sometimes the lesson is…

MAKING THE COMMUNITY WORK FOR YOU…

When we experience change in our life, we can control our response and reaction to the changes that are happening. Transformation is a universal constant that affects our lives from the moment we are born until we leave this earthly existence behind. At the root of all growth, we find change. Occasionally, change and the…