JUS’ E-MAIL ME: MORE THAN BIG BLACK D!@K

On a few occasions, men who were perfect strangers have touched me inappropriately in gay bars and in gay nightclubs without my consent.  If you accidentally make eye contact with someone, they sometimes believe they now have the right to touch you how they please. This has always been something that not only confused me…

JUS’ E-MAIL ME: HAVING A 3SOME WITHOUT THE DRAMA…

Being part of a threesome is a common sexual fantasy for my partner and me, but finding our way into one (and maneuvering within one) seems incredibly daunting. We are not familiar with sharing intimacy with anyone other than ourselves and we are wondering how to navigate a 3some without any drama? Have you ever…

JUS E-MAIL ME: ¿HOW DO I GET OVER MY STRAIGHT FRIEND?

Our friends group is mix of straight and gay men, but there is one guy who I am really close to, and to be honest, I love him very much.  He’s straight, married and loves me too as a friend. I really do care about him and he does too (he treats me like a…

JUS’ E-MAIL ME: MORE THAN FRIENDS (BEST)

I’m kind of in love with one of my best friends. And I think it’s possible that he feels the same way about me. Initially, things didn’t seem romantic, but the energy between us has changed over time. And I’m wondering: do you think it’s a good idea to pursue a relationship with a best…

JUS’ E-MAIL ME: PITY PRIDE F&*K…

I am confused and kind of upset about something that happened to me recently. First, I want to be clear that I am not ashamed of my HIV status. I have disclosed to all of my friends. And I like to make myself available to anyone who has questions about HIV. So I don’t have…

JUS’ E-MAIL ME: DOUBLE DATING

I’m the luckiest guy in the world. For a little while now, I’ve been going on casual dates with two really interesting men. They’re both cool in different ways, and I feel like I could have a great relationship with either of them. The only problem is that I don’t want to let either of them…

JUS’ E-MAIL ME: SEX, TRUST & CAMERAS…

I’ve been dating a guy for a few months now and on Valentine’s Day, he’s hinted at us making a video. And not the G-rated either. Truthfully, I have mixed feelings about it. I mean I trust him but can you really ever trust anyone? Now he’s upset with me for not doing and said that…

JUS E-MAIL ME: I HAVE POST SEX SHAME

My hookups go something like this, we talk on Grindr, he comes over, we get undressed and do the business. ‘Then the guy would make small talk as we both got dressed and leaves. This makes me feel dirty and I even change the sheets and take a shower afterwards. I brush my teeth and…

JUS’ E-MAIL ME: DATING & OPEN RELATIONSHIPS

I never planned to date a guy in an open relationship. It wasn’t that I was so gung-ho on monogamy, I just figured it wasn’t for me. I’m too jealous, can be needy and didn’t like the idea of being shared. Besides, everyone I knew growing up was monogamous. My parents. My grandparents. Their friends…