“This is for my brothers who dare to love other brothers in a revolutionary way.” Writing to you is an exercise in self-love and holistic restoration. I am called to reckon with the promise of my future, the depths of my own greatness, accessed and denied. You are the world. It has been said that…

Using the media as a litmus test, one would think romantic love among black gay men is in dire straits. Prominent black gay men like Michael Sam and Derrick Gordon both have white lovers, and recently, the key black gay character in Lee Daniels’ “Empire” has a Mexican boyfriend who ostensibly is white. Quite honestly, when the only highly…

Do you ever feel like your life is an embodiment of the game, “Kill-Fuck-Marry”? For the select few who may have never had the honor of playing the ubiquitous game of “Kill-Fuck-Marry,” the rules go like this: You and a few of your cohorts name three individuals—either real or fictional—who, under whatever circumstance, you’d rather…

Black gay men have a multitude of everyday problems to deal with, but no task seems as daunting as finding a suitable partner. We’re such a varied group of people; however, as humans we all want the same thing: companionship. But, how does one even begin to tread through the murky waters of dating in…

The psychology of oppression is about the way that one culture or group of people dominates another. Colonization is a tool of oppression that works by continuously feeding the oppressed group the cultural values of the dominant group. This replaces the natural cultural identity of the oppressed group and leads them to identify themselves in…

We’re constantly told that a man should be independent: he should have his own car, his own place, and his own job. He should be self-sufficient and stand on his own two feet with no help from anyone else. We are told that we should live our lives and to hell with what anyone else…

How many times have you found yourself in a situation—a friendship, relationship, or dead-end job—that was no good for you?  Did you stay?  Even with all the tell-tale signs?  Or did you let it go?  Personally, I can say yes to all of these things.  One of my experiences dealt with a past relationship.  Looking…