HUMANITY OR SEXUALITY: ¿WHICH ONE COMES FIRST?

Many of us have lived our lives through various identities. Pretending to be hetero, for instance, out of safety concerns while trying to figure out who we are and overcome our own internalized homophobia.  As time progressed, we learned that much of the discourse received from other hetero males growing up wasn’t by choice as much…

PRIDE MONTH & “PRIDE” MERCHANDISE…

From the begin of June to the end, corporations will be selling brightly colored rainbow items just in time for Pride Month. What do you think about all the businesses selling swag that yells “GAY RIGHTS” at us? Do you find such pride merchandise rooted in frightening complacency that lacks sensitivity & contextualized understanding of…

HOW TO DEAL WITH SEXUAL GUILT & SHAME

Sexuality is a taboo topic in our society because it is one of those primal forces which we consciously or unconsciously feel powerless to control. Deep down, we sense that it is connected to that unknown universal source of energy from which we came from and continue to exist within.  The feeling of shame is…

SEXUALITY: ¿HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THE GUILT & SHAME?

Sexuality is a taboo topic in our society because it is one of those primal forces which we consciously or unconsciously feel powerless to control. Deep down, we sense that it is connected to that unknown universal source of energy from which we came from and continue to exist within. The feeling of shame is…

¿ARE GAY MEN REALLY PROMISCUOUS?

Many people think that most gay men are promiscuous. So if you are gay, bi, or queer, do you believe yourself to be inherently promiscuous? It is a common misconception that gay males are inherently “promiscuous” mainly because of their gender preference or gender classification. There have been many theories that try to justify the supposed…

¿CAN A BLACK MAN EVER BE MORE THAN HIS D!@K?

Is it true what they say about black men  –  that we turn an ass out in bed? According to some of response I get about the images I share here, that seems to be a definitely. I love when a black man can be appreciated, but I can’t stop myself from cringing when I…

WHEN GAY PORN HAS US RETHINKING MASCULINITY…

People will talk about gay culture in isolation, but it is based on interaction with, [and] recycling and appropriation of, aspects of the wider culture and it has undergone significant transformation over time, reflecting the social, cultural, and political environment of different eras. Evolving from the sexual revolution through the early days of the AIDS…

FLIPPING GAY LABELS WHERE “DADDY” IS CONCERNED

Terms in the gay community can have a way of flipping on themselves depending on a ton of factors.  Gone are the days where the labels equate exactly to one of two things: age and look.  Now, terms are used much more freely and have more room to breathe. Apps are a big way to…

¿WHEN ARE WE GOING TO STOP SABOTAGING OUR SEXUALITY?

Are you the kinda of man that isn’t exactly a “top” or a “bottom,”although if things go there, you’ll be find with it? Are you the kind of “versatile” man  that if you could get away with it, you’d spend most of the rest of my sex life just making out and cuddling? Now I get…

¿CAN MEN THAT TAKE IT LIKE MAN EVER GET REAL RESPECT?

Aren’t we all damaged goods, trying to find our way around the sexual maze? Don’t we all enjoy anal sex, so why do we make those of that  “bottom” feel like failures as men and discarded outside the bedroom?  In a community where we add new letters to LGBTQI to make it more encompassing and the with the ascent…