¿WHY DO MANY GAY MEN DISLIKE SEEING A BLACK MAN “BOTTOMING” IN PORN?

Ever notice how hard it is to find blacks bottoming for whites in interracial porn? With few exceptions, porn studios seem to think there is only one acceptable way to show interracial sex: The hyperaggressive African-American top and the submissive white bottom. Is gay porn racist? Or is it a benign form of stereotyping? Like…

¿HOW MANY MEN DOES IT?

For as long as I can remember, scholars, poets and philosophers have grappled with the same pressing question: As a “straight” guy that’s ‘gay for pay’ or bisexual, how many guys do you have to fuck before you’re officially gay? Of course we could start throwing out numbers, but they would prove nothing. Trying to…

HYPER-MASCULINITY & THE GAY COMMUNITY

In our society, one of the first stages of learnt hyper-masculinity is the propagation of feminine men as objects, things that exist to please a masculine man’s gaze, ego and his penis. Do you think that both ‘masculine and feminine’ men realize that from boys to young men, we’re taught and soon adopt the notion that the…

¿ARE MODERN BLACK GAY MEN OBSESSED WITH SEEMING STRAIGHT?

  How many times have you seen the words “No Fems” on a guy’s profile and wondered if that applied to you? And how many times have you tried downplaying your “gayness” even when in the company of other gay men? For a lot of the modern gay black men, a big part of being…

THE “GAYDAR” MYTH…

Kids are often told that you can’t judge a book by its cover. Even so, people often believe they can rely on their gut to intuit things about other people. Stereotypes often influence these impressions, whether it’s that a black man is dangerous, a woman won’t be a good leader or a fashionable man is…

WHY FINDING THE GAY GENE IS A BIG PROBLEM

Homosexuality has existed in societies across the globe for as long as we can go back in time. The Greeks, Romans, indigenous tribes, Europeans, and even early Americans had a level of fluid sexuality that permeated throughout their cultures, and that existed on a spectrum that most weren’t fixated on the way too many people…

HUMANITY OR SEXUALITY: ¿WHICH ONE COMES FIRST?

Many of us have lived our lives through various identities. Pretending to be hetero, for instance, out of safety concerns while trying to figure out who we are and overcome our own internalized homophobia.  As time progressed, we learned that much of the discourse received from other hetero males growing up wasn’t by choice as much…

PRIDE MONTH & “PRIDE” MERCHANDISE…

From the begin of June to the end, corporations will be selling brightly colored rainbow items just in time for Pride Month. What do you think about all the businesses selling swag that yells “GAY RIGHTS” at us? Do you find such pride merchandise rooted in frightening complacency that lacks sensitivity & contextualized understanding of…

HOW TO DEAL WITH SEXUAL GUILT & SHAME

Sexuality is a taboo topic in our society because it is one of those primal forces which we consciously or unconsciously feel powerless to control. Deep down, we sense that it is connected to that unknown universal source of energy from which we came from and continue to exist within.  The feeling of shame is…

SEXUALITY: ¿HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THE GUILT & SHAME?

Sexuality is a taboo topic in our society because it is one of those primal forces which we consciously or unconsciously feel powerless to control. Deep down, we sense that it is connected to that unknown universal source of energy from which we came from and continue to exist within. The feeling of shame is…