¿ARE MODERN BLACK GAY MEN OBSESSED WITH SEEMING STRAIGHT?

  How many times have you seen the words “No Fems” on a guy’s profile and wondered if that applied to you? And how many times have you tried downplaying your “gayness” even when in the company of other gay men? For a lot of the modern gay black men, a big part of being…

THE “GAYDAR” MYTH…

Kids are often told that you can’t judge a book by its cover. Even so, people often believe they can rely on their gut to intuit things about other people. Stereotypes often influence these impressions, whether it’s that a black man is dangerous, a woman won’t be a good leader or a fashionable man is…

WHY FINDING THE GAY GENE IS A BIG PROBLEM

Homosexuality has existed in societies across the globe for as long as we can go back in time. The Greeks, Romans, indigenous tribes, Europeans, and even early Americans had a level of fluid sexuality that permeated throughout their cultures, and that existed on a spectrum that most weren’t fixated on the way too many people…

HUMANITY OR SEXUALITY: ¿WHICH ONE COMES FIRST?

Many of us have lived our lives through various identities. Pretending to be hetero, for instance, out of safety concerns while trying to figure out who we are and overcome our own internalized homophobia.  As time progressed, we learned that much of the discourse received from other hetero males growing up wasn’t by choice as much…

PRIDE MONTH & “PRIDE” MERCHANDISE…

From the begin of June to the end, corporations will be selling brightly colored rainbow items just in time for Pride Month. What do you think about all the businesses selling swag that yells “GAY RIGHTS” at us? Do you find such pride merchandise rooted in frightening complacency that lacks sensitivity & contextualized understanding of…

HOW TO DEAL WITH SEXUAL GUILT & SHAME

Sexuality is a taboo topic in our society because it is one of those primal forces which we consciously or unconsciously feel powerless to control. Deep down, we sense that it is connected to that unknown universal source of energy from which we came from and continue to exist within.  The feeling of shame is…

SEXUALITY: ¿HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THE GUILT & SHAME?

Sexuality is a taboo topic in our society because it is one of those primal forces which we consciously or unconsciously feel powerless to control. Deep down, we sense that it is connected to that unknown universal source of energy from which we came from and continue to exist within. The feeling of shame is…

¿ARE GAY MEN REALLY PROMISCUOUS?

Many people think that most gay men are promiscuous. So if you are gay, bi, or queer, do you believe yourself to be inherently promiscuous? It is a common misconception that gay males are inherently “promiscuous” mainly because of their gender preference or gender classification. There have been many theories that try to justify the supposed…

¿CAN A BLACK MAN EVER BE MORE THAN HIS D!@K?

Is it true what they say about black men  –  that we turn an ass out in bed? According to some of response I get about the images I share here, that seems to be a definitely. I love when a black man can be appreciated, but I can’t stop myself from cringing when I…

WHEN GAY PORN HAS US RETHINKING MASCULINITY…

People will talk about gay culture in isolation, but it is based on interaction with, [and] recycling and appropriation of, aspects of the wider culture and it has undergone significant transformation over time, reflecting the social, cultural, and political environment of different eras. Evolving from the sexual revolution through the early days of the AIDS…